Anger is the most common personality disorder that spoils relationships in everyday life. Why do we get angry? 1. Thinking that the other persons’ status and their thinking power are below your level and dignity. 2. Full of egoism: If the other person disagree with your thoughts, immediately, you feel that they showed disrespect to your image and personality (’I’ mentality) and you get anger. 3. Stubbornness: you expect that, whatever you wish that it must be carried down by the others, under any circumstances. Otherwise you will not tolerate and develop angry mood. 4. Authoritative mentality: Having bossism type attitude while dealing with others. 5. Habituated to controlling everybody and everything. 6. Having the inferiority complex attitude. 7. Being under the misconception that by exhibiting anger, it is easy to keep others well under your control or command. Bad effects or problems due to anger: 1. Anger causes physical and mental troubles-like, -Headache, Hyper- acidity, pains in neck region, -Lack of concentration in doing any work/studies, etc. 2. Your friend show disinterest in speaking to you. 3. You feel too-much stress 4. You rarely laugh with your relatives/friends and your relationship with them get spoiled 5. People talk something before you and exactly opposite thing behind you 6. Your moods are not under your control, that is, you don’t when you get angry or when you are in normal condition 7. Nobody dares to give any valuable suggestion to you, as you think that what you know is the only correct thing. 8. After some days, you begin to get angry upon yourself and also develop … [Read more...]
How to manage Anger?
When emotions run high and thoughts run amok, even a calm person may become a victim of anger. It is a proved fact that the emotional life of an individual frequently influences one’s health and also the personality. Studies indicate that for 1/3 to 1/2 of patients who are consulting physicians because of physical symptoms have no bodily diseases or ailments, but they are due to emotional factors. It is important to observe that physicians have to study the patient as a whole. The effect of emotions on bodily changes is apparent in many gastrointestinal disorders, in the form of nausea, vomiting, loss of appetite, indigestion abdominal discomfort and diarrhea and ultimately leading to peptic ulcer. Emotions also affect central nervous system causing anger and stress, which can disrupt lives as much as an earthquake (which can alter biography). The present century is labeled by many as “the age of anger and anxiety”.Anger can harm an individual’s physical and social health, since it is a manifestation of selfish, unfulfilled desires. Anger is described as a violent outburst of emotion, stemming from the frustration of the individual. Anger is “one letter short of danger”. Hence it should be avoided, under any circumstances. At the time of angry, the hormones “epinephrine and nor-epinephrine” are secreted in excessive quantities, leading to increase in the heart rate and rise in blood pressure and also the blood vessels are contracted and increase in the incidence of premature heart diseases. An angry person frequently loses his memory, knowledge necessary or logical thinking and proper human behavior. Angry starts wit minor irritation and it can grow into an obsession, that disease the mind. When … [Read more...]
Happiness and Anger
We never get happiness either from anger or jealousy. Nobody says like this: "today I am very happy why because I scolded somebody." If at all he wants to say something, he would say like this, "today I am very sad because I scolded someone with anger". So it is ridiculous to be happy when you are when you’re in angry mood. Anger is temporary madness and also anger is once enemy. Anger rises one's blood pressure. How to get happiness? 1. Understanding one another 2. Excusing one another 3. Showing kindness to the helpless 4. Giving respect and taking respect 5. Having common-sense. (It is rightly said that “commonsense is” uncommon with the common people) By observing the above five points we get: 1. Happyness 2. Mental peace 3. Satisfaction 4. Respect in the society If we remove ‘D’ from “danger”, the remaining word is “anger”. So, it clearly shows anger and danger are bosom friends. … [Read more...]
10 tips to control anger
Anger is a temporary madness. Man becomes inhuman. Anger walks before downfall. An angry man’s face looks like a lion’s face. People afraid off to approach an angry person. The angry persons are suffering from Hypertension due to constant stress. Negative thoughts bring anger. Anger spoils relations among people. How to manage and control anger? 1. Move away from that place or situation when you suspect that you are going to get angry. 2. Take plenty of drinking water. 3. Take deep inspiration and expiration frequently. 4. Count the numbers 1-50. (10 are not sufficient). 5. Remember the past events when you get angry and the bad effects you faced at that time. 6. See your angry face in your mirror; definitely you don’t like to see your angry face. 7. Pray to god to help you with good thoughts and peace of mind. 8. Meditation and self confidence help you control yourself. 9. Don’t jump immediately whenever anybody passes bad comments against you. Have patience. 10. Look at the innocent face of the child. Child face looks like a god’s face. We can see god in a child’s face. If you follow the above 10 rules, you will be escaped from the ill effects of anger. … [Read more...]
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