The following 4 things are common for all living beings: 1. Food: for living and survival. 2. Sleep: to recoup the bodily energy (as sleep provides rest to the body). 3. Sex: It is a biological need and it serves many purposes, like: -calm up the exiting sensory organs, -Removes the feeling of loneliness, -Helps to control the blood pressure, -Brings pleasure to the mind and body, etc. 4. Fear: What for? The above four things are even though present in all creatures, man’s response and worrying about them is to some extent is more. But, after fulfilling the three acts, they will not give trouble to you. But in case of fear, the situation is different and it is always accompanying us. So let us discuss about it and clear the doubts. Even infants (children below I year of age) suddenly wake up from the sleep and show feelings of disturbance and excitement. That means, since our birth, the fear giving some sort of discomfort to us, with or without any cause. The usual causes for the fear-complex are: -Getting diseases by indulging in irregular food habits and other immoral activities. -The rich are always spending the days in sleepless-nights, as how to save their huge amounts of money, either from thieves or harmful known persons. -The people with name and fame in the society may think that one day their name may be tarnished, unless they behave carefully. -Rulers afraid of their enemies. -Beautiful women and handsome men worry of their old age. -The good and the noble people afraid of bad and rowdy elements. -Every living being worry about the inevitable death-feeling. But is there any … [Read more...]
How to overcome inferiority complex – 2?
25 to 30% of people are suffering from inferiority complex and the main thing is they feel hesitant to start any work out of fear, thinking that others might think in another way. Often they feel shyness and dejected, degrade themselves and do not enjoy their rights even at the minimum level. Behavior of people with Inferiority complex: 1. They hesitate to speak out of fear that other might misunderstand them, even though they got conversational skills. 2. They get their hair-cutting neatly, but still feel shyness and often wear hat to cover their heads, thinking that others might laugh at them. 3. They take it very easily even when the newly acquainted persons also dare to crack jokes against them (they don’t protest). 4. They eat calmly the dish supplied in a hotel even if it is stale, because they think that server might feel offended if they make any adverse comments against the preparation. 5. They eat beyond their limits and suffer from stomach upset whenever they go out for any dinner under obligation. 6. They lend their important books, articles, etc. to friends for few days under obligation and feel tension, until they are returned. 7. They fall an easy prey to realtors and fake financial institutions, become members and burn their fingers. 8. They drink (alcohol) and eat items of junk foods in parties, much against their wish, out of obligation. 9. They go out to stand even near a lavatory being unable to withstand smell of smoking from a co-passenger in a railway compartment, instead openly objecting to the smoking. 10. They hesitate to wear new dresses with suits and shoes fearing that others might find them gaudy and make unnecessary … [Read more...]
Anger: causes, problems and management
Anger is the most common personality disorder that spoils relationships in everyday life. Why do we get angry? 1. Thinking that the other persons’ status and their thinking power are below your level and dignity. 2. Full of egoism: If the other person disagree with your thoughts, immediately, you feel that they showed disrespect to your image and personality (’I’ mentality) and you get anger. 3. Stubbornness: you expect that, whatever you wish that it must be carried down by the others, under any circumstances. Otherwise you will not tolerate and develop angry mood. 4. Authoritative mentality: Having bossism type attitude while dealing with others. 5. Habituated to controlling everybody and everything. 6. Having the inferiority complex attitude. 7. Being under the misconception that by exhibiting anger, it is easy to keep others well under your control or command. Bad effects or problems due to anger: 1. Anger causes physical and mental troubles-like, -Headache, Hyper- acidity, pains in neck region, -Lack of concentration in doing any work/studies, etc. 2. Your friend show disinterest in speaking to you. 3. You feel too-much stress 4. You rarely laugh with your relatives/friends and your relationship with them get spoiled 5. People talk something before you and exactly opposite thing behind you 6. Your moods are not under your control, that is, you don’t when you get angry or when you are in normal condition 7. Nobody dares to give any valuable suggestion to you, as you think that what you know is the only correct thing. 8. After some days, you begin to get angry upon yourself and also develop … [Read more...]
How to manage Anger?
When emotions run high and thoughts run amok, even a calm person may become a victim of anger. It is a proved fact that the emotional life of an individual frequently influences one’s health and also the personality. Studies indicate that for 1/3 to 1/2 of patients who are consulting physicians because of physical symptoms have no bodily diseases or ailments, but they are due to emotional factors. It is important to observe that physicians have to study the patient as a whole. The effect of emotions on bodily changes is apparent in many gastrointestinal disorders, in the form of nausea, vomiting, loss of appetite, indigestion abdominal discomfort and diarrhea and ultimately leading to peptic ulcer. Emotions also affect central nervous system causing anger and stress, which can disrupt lives as much as an earthquake (which can alter biography). The present century is labeled by many as “the age of anger and anxiety”.Anger can harm an individual’s physical and social health, since it is a manifestation of selfish, unfulfilled desires. Anger is described as a violent outburst of emotion, stemming from the frustration of the individual. Anger is “one letter short of danger”. Hence it should be avoided, under any circumstances. At the time of angry, the hormones “epinephrine and nor-epinephrine” are secreted in excessive quantities, leading to increase in the heart rate and rise in blood pressure and also the blood vessels are contracted and increase in the incidence of premature heart diseases. An angry person frequently loses his memory, knowledge necessary or logical thinking and proper human behavior. Angry starts wit minor irritation and it can grow into an obsession, that disease the mind. When … [Read more...]
Stop worrying and start living
Nobody loves problems and everyone wants happy and stress free life. But failures and problems are inevitable in every person’s life. Successful people use these problems and failures as stepping stones to achieve wonderful things in life (Abraham Lincoln) while ordinary people keep on worrying about their and ruin their health and some may even commit suicide. First one has to recognize that problems and failures are part and parcel of one’s life. Real joy in life lies in solving those problems. Positive thinking and self confidence helps in facing these difficulties. Those who lack self esteem and belief in their abilities succumb to those difficulties by keep on worrying about them. Just imagine the life without problems and Cause for worry: Man’s usual nature is “fretting, furring and fearing” about the future, as well as, about the fast, also worrying about his career and financial problems in day-to-day life, etc. Effects of worry on mind and body: 1. Mental tension, high blood pressure and heart attacks, 2. Rheumatism (fever and pains in the joints) 3. stomach aches (peptic ulcers) 4. Common cold 5. Thyroid problems (goiter) 6. Diabetes (due to less secretion of insulin hormone) 7. Worry shortens our life-span, etc. How to overcome worry? 1. Find out the causes for the worries and then stop worrying. 2. Face the facts and don’t run away from them. 3. Do something to restore peace to your mind. 4. To solve your problems, apply the magic formula of “Rudyard Kipling”. The formula is very simple … [Read more...]
How to overcome worry?
Worry is an enemy of your life and also a big hindrance to your personality development. It is worry, which in the long run, spoils our life, affects our personality development and also drives us to ruins. This is the quote in "Twelth Night" - “I am sure care is an enemy to your life”. Here care means “worry”. Mahatma Gandhi rightly said, “There is nothing that wastes the body like worry”. The usual causes of worry are: Problems that cause worry are as different as how people react to problems. Generally people with positive thinking can face problems effectively than people with negative mindset. That’s why problem solvers rose quickly to top positions in companies. We should not think about problems but should focus our energy on how to solve them. Effects of worry on the body: 1. Hyperacidity in the stomach: The golden saying is “If you weep, your stomach weeps”. Weeping stimulates the nerves of the stomach, there by more secretion of hydrochloric is produced, which in turn damages (eats) the stomach (gastric) walls, leading to “peptic ulcer”. 2. Worry causes stress and strain: Due to constant stress, the brain and nerves have to bear the brunt the person suffer from –high blood pressure ,which leads to heart strokes and brain strokes ( paralysis). “What is this life with full of care, we have no time to stand and stare”. How overcome worry and be happy? Two types of remedies are available: 1. Scientifically: If you have strong will power and self-confidence, you can easily overcome the worry. As per the great Napoleon (emperor of France), “Nothing is impossible to human beings”. As H. w. Longfellow wrote, “The cares they infest the … [Read more...]
Complex Personalities and their behavior
The man’s nature, behavior, values, opinions, goals and achievements in life depend on the self-confidence only. No other thing influences the life such effectively, as self- confidence. Man should have confidence in his intellectual powers and energies. The individual who doesn’t believe and respect himself, can’t believe the surrounding society also. He can’t live happily and also not able to face the troubles confidently. Persons having full self-confidence exhibit following signs: 1. They behave with responsibility and we can safely depend on them. 2. They keep their promises under any circumstances. 3. They are Honest and also have strong perseverance in doing any work. 4. Give importance to moral values. 5. Never hesitate to learn a new thing. 6. Strive sincerely to improve personally and also try their level best to preserve their individuality. 7. They express their opinions freely and won’t mind even if others oppose their views. 8. Have plenty of creativity in them. 9. Treat both the success and defeat as a part of life and won’t afraid of them and moreover lessons from them and proceed further in life. 10. Never reject the praises of others if they do them honestly. 11. They are not extraordinary and exhibit the natural human feelings like, anger, sorrow, pain, etc. along with happiness. 12. They try to render help to the society within their limits and capacities. 13. Others treat them as their role models. 14. The seed of self-confidence in them is seen since their childhood itself and the incidents that occur during their childhood and the society also help to grow the confidence in them. Persons suffering from inferiority complex show following characteristics: 1. They can’t mingle … [Read more...]
Anacardium personality (Schizophrenic)
Anacardium personality is the common Psychological disorder. 3 main symptoms of Anacardium Personality: 1. Inferiority complex2. Cruel mentality3. Do the work and don’t do the work (split personality). 1. Inferiority Complex: He always desires that everyone should praise him as a great personality. At the same time, he suffers from inferiority complex. If any body rises that point he bluntly rejects them. He is stubborn and has no mental peace. 2. Cruel Mentality:Sometimes he develops depression and commits suicide. They are also suffer from self confidence and are coward people. For example: A student studies very well for the examinations and he need not fail at all. But as he having lack of self confidence, he commits mistakes in the examination and fails in the exam. Sometimes to fulfill his desire (which is not possible), they become adamant and develops cruel mentality. In this he won’t hesitate to harm to others. 3. Split Personality: He is always doubtful in nature and has swinging mentality. He believes nobody sincerely and nobody believes him and vice versa. … [Read more...]
Suicide- Causes, Symptoms and Management
Many of us suffer from depression, at any time in our life, which may be in varying intensity- from mild to serious types. Depression is nothing but loosing interest or enthusiasm in life. There are so many causes or reasons for this type of mental agony. Suicide- causes: 1. When a person looses his property in business. 2. When one is rejected or cheated by, his or her love or lover. 3. When a person is suffering from a dreadful diseases like-cancer, HIV/AIDS etc. 4. When a person is not able to secure a rank in the competitive test, thereby not able to get a job, or actually fails in the exam. 5. When one is neglected by his or her family members, including the children. 6. When one problem is aggravated with additional problems. 7. When a person with bodily disorder is jeered at by the people around. 8. when one is subjected to meaningless phobias or anxiety, etc. 9. When others in the past, committed suicide, under similar circumstances. 10. Often many women develop depression after giving birth to a child (during postpartum period), due to imbalances in levels of progesterone and estrogen hormones. 11. When he or she is suffering from psychiatric problems and other sexual disorders. 12. When a nearest relative dies or there is a death of any family member occurs. 13. When a higher officer scolds his assistant without assigning any valid reason, he develops depression. 14. Whenever, a person does not get nutritious or balanced diet, he may develop depression. 15. Occasionally, normal menstrual cycle aggravates the depression, if already present in a woman. 16. Depression runs in some families as a hereditary /genetic … [Read more...]
Patience and Tolearance
In every human being, two types of qualities are present, naturally. 1. Godly qualities, which are: LoveKindnessGraceCharityAffectionRighteousness. 2. Demon’s (Satan’s) qualities, which are: Anger Jealousy Impatience ViolenceDisrespect, etc. If we nurture the God’s qualities, we also become god- like and godliness shines in us. Of all the godly qualities, Patience (tolerance) is the best quality. It saves us from the unexpected bad events and stands as good supporter like a hill. It protects us like a strong steel coat. It also gives self- control and self-confidence. Persons having the patience face the troubles with courage and overcome the obstacles. Ultimately they come out with colorful victory. Persons without patience or like a grace (and as grace moves with the wind), these persons behave irresponsibly and behave like cowards. They are filled with full of ego and anger. Discretion is not present in them. There life is like a ship with out rudder and also like a kite with out thread. Persons with patience have mental peace and spend their leaves happily and belief in God. … [Read more...]
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