The most important thing here is with what sort of thoughts, our noble mind is filled with, whether with positive thoughts or negative thoughts? No other person, except yourself, would be able to read exactly what is in your mind. Although, people may not be able to tell you exactly what you think, they will more or less have an idea about your feelings. Thoughts are very powerful and affect your general attitude, which in turn not only reflects on your appearance but also affect people around you. The attitude may be positive or negative. Positive thoughts have a filling effect and admittedly invigorating and the people around the person carrying positive thoughts are usually energized by this type of attitude.Negative thought on the other hand have a sapping effect on other people and make you look gloom, sad and can turn a festive gathering into a funeral wake. Positive thoughts attract people, whereas negative thoughts repel them. Attitude is nothing but the way of looking at the world by any person. But if you choose to focus on the negative things in the world, more or less you develop a negative attitude. Hence choose to focus on positive things, so that you carry on a positive attitude. Benefits of living with positive attitude: 1. It promotes better health 2. Have more number of friends 3. Helps one to handle the situation of stress more affectively 4. Handle the problems in a better way than the negative attitude persons. A Positive attitude begins with a healthy self-image. The individual with positive attitude also make other people around him; feel with love, satisfaction, confident and self-assured. Now a days, it is very difficult to have a … [Read more...]
Tips for happy and stress free life
Quote: Try hard to get what you like or you will be forced to like what you like get. The secret of happiness lies in the simplification of life. Simple living encourages high thinking and leads to contentment which in turn gives us “inner wealth”, i.e. the wealth of the mind and of the soul. A contented man devotes himself to virtues like: Truth, beauty, love, goodness, kindness and charity. By pursuing and inculcating the above virtues, a man can feel true happiness. I do not mean that for simplification of life, a man should become an ascetic which may be considered as negative kind of happiness. But to have that positive kind of happiness, in this present day of speedy and stressful life, we have to faithfully carry out our responsibilities to our career, home and the country.All this should be done in the light and spirit of selfless service. If you wish sincerely to lead a happy life, you should also make others happy, thereby; you taste real and lasting happiness. There is a kind of joy in serving others with virtuous motives and in sacrificing what one has for the good of others. An act of goodness is in itself an act of happiness. There is a sense of happiness in doing ones work honestly and efficiently. One more good quality for perfect happiness lies in renunciation (of some comforts). Wealth may give us joy for a while and fame may provide us with fleeting excitement. They can’t give us permanent happiness. For example, you have read the stories of kings of those yesteryears and biographies of present-days’ dictators who had everything to make them happy and yet they felt and lead unhappy lives and some of them committed suicides even. Why? The main cause is they have not practiced … [Read more...]
How to be happy in 2009?
The WEEK magazine published an article by celebrity author Shobhaa De for happiness in life. Shobhaa De listed 25 simple acts to bring happiness in one’s life. How to be happy in 2009? 1. Family is crucial in one's happiness. Allocate sufficient time to the family members. Take care of your self. 2. Forget bad incidents in your life. They will ruin your physical and mental wellbeing. 3. Be positive and trust your abilities. Unless you trust yourself, nobody will trust you. 4. Express gratitude to the people through phone/mail. 5. Take rest from busy schedule and introspect yourself. Introspection will enhance one's life. 6. Be emotional with your family members. They need your love and exhibit it by simple acts like kissing and hugging. Life is precious and enjoy. 7. Listen with heart when others are speaking. Relations will spoil if they detect your body language. 8. Share your inner feelings with your family and friends which is good to your health. 9. Never argument. Arguments will never win you friends. 10. Try to do every work wholeheartedly. 11. Don’t be over perfectionist. It will irritate others. 12. Control anger and emotions before taking decisions. 13. Complement people for their good acts. Everyone likes to be appreciated by others. 14. Music has distressing ability. Melodious music will enhance your physical and mental wellbeing. 15. Exhibit emotions with your closed ones. Never control beautiful emotional acts like crying, hugging, laughing and kissing. 16. Help others. Allocate some money for charity. Good acts will increase happiness in life. 17. Gardening is a great hobby. … [Read more...]
8 Causes for unhappiness in life
Why some people are always unhappy while others face same problems with smile on their face. Cicero, a famous philosopher and statesman of yesteryears (2000B.c) belonging to Italy (Rome), enumerated the following causes for unhappiness, which holds well for ever. 8 weaknesses in the personality of unhappy people: 1. Dominating mentality:Human in-born trait (may be weakness) is by suppressing others, we may achieve our goals and personally be benefitted. It is a wrong notion and of selfishness in nature. This type of thinking is merely an illusion and also we are building castles in air. 2. Un-necessarily worrying about the things or situations which we can’t change. It is a waste of time and energy also. 3. In-accurate estimation of our strengths and weaknesses and at certain times facing heavy losses during our career. 4.Many a time giving importance and evincing keen interest in petty things, which are of no use to us in any way. 5. Never trying sincerely to improve our mental power and not gaining maturity. 6. Always be under the impression that our views are only genuine and factual and also wishing that others also should give their consent to our beliefs. 7. Egoism: “I know everything and I need not other’s advice”. Ultimately such type of personalities will land in darkness and troubles. 8. Arguements: These types of people think that “arguing always pays and meekness is weakness”. But what is the remedy? The surest and simplest way is: Applying commonsense depending upon the situations. But the pitiable thing is, as quoted by a noble personality- “commonsense is uncommon with the common people”. Unhappiness leads to depression and is … [Read more...]
How to make friends?
Making friends is not always an easy affair, especially if you are shy in nature. Not all of us born with charisma. But, we can make friends, if we follow certain norms and tips, as shown below. 16 tips to make friendship and keep it forever: 1. Be optimistic. If some body insults you, just ignore him and, don’t be afraid to express your opinions, as he has no idea what he is talking about. A positive out look will make people want to be more around you. 2. Smile as much as you can. It is a sign that you are interested in what they are saying. 3. Listen more than you talk and try to take what the person says and run with it. Add your own thoughts also occasionally, but don’t hijack the conversation. 4. Say "hello” to those who are reserved and talk less. Share something about yourself, such as why are you there? Avoid talking about weather at that time. 5. Don’t expect perfection out of anyone (especially yourself). For example, if you forget your own name while introducing yourself, don’t get panicky, but just make fun of the situation. 6. Share interesting ideas. Your thoughts can open up many doors that can lead to friendship. 7. Crack a joke. Having a sense of humor is important, but don’t get yourself too carried away, as there are some things you have to be serious about. 8. Start by doing little things, if you are very reserved. For example, every time you go to work, say hello to one person and have a one-on-one conversation with them. 9. Everybody likes some attention (even the shy ones). Pay attention to people and they will repay you warmly. 10. Don’t be selfish. Many think if they are generous, their friends would take advantage of … [Read more...]
How to behave with neighbors?
Man is a social being and he cannot live alone in this, (especially) busy modern world. From dawn to dusk, he has to mingle and mix with many number of people whom he come a cross daily and has to work together with them either in the office or in other fields where he has to do his job. At his residence (house), also he has to maintain good relation ship and rapport with his neighbors. It is strange but true, many a time we actually don’t know, who is our neighbor? Such is the situation often we face. With the help of these tips, we can maintain good co-ordeal relationship, especially with our neighbors and also others. 1. First of all, take initiative and talk to your neighbor with a smiling face, (even if you’re very busy), if you happened to see him face to face. Never wait thinking that your neighbor should take the initiative. 2. Never forget to invite your neighbors for the functions and for any other happy occasions, which might take place in your home often and on. 3. Often and on, arrange small get-together parties and invite your neighbors. 4. Move with them freely, but never try to take undue advantage of interfering with their personal affairs and also not involve deeply yourself in their matters. 5. But lf they tell anything to you, just listen to what they so and keep quiet. Otherwise, politely tell them, that you have no time. 6. Persons without any work or job, never keep quiet, but go on spreading rumors and passing unnecessary comments against others. Never participate yourself in such type of discussions. Better to be calm in such type of situations. The golden word is: ‘’Speech is silver, but silence is golden.’’ 7. If there are more than … [Read more...]
Art of Living- How to live happily?
Swamiji Sri Sri Ravi Shankar explains us nicely how to live happily and purposefully in this world. 1. He says firmly that we must have an aim in life and further He teaches us as follows. 2. Stream is different from flood. In stream, the water flows in a systematic way. Where as in floods, the water flows as it likes. 3. In the same manner, the energy present in us should flow like water in the river, as it has got certain direction, otherwise, nothing but confusion prevails. Now a day, majority of the people’s condition is without any specific direction, just like a ship without rudder. 4. When you are in happy moods, so much life- energy is accumulated inside the body, and never allows it to be stagnated there and get itself rotted. It should flow freely. 5. Life runs with commitment only. Every small or big things in our life, goes with certain commitment. For example: 1. Family runs on commitment, 2 Mother is committed to the child and the child in turn to the parents.3. Wife is committed to her husband and vice versa, 4. A student takes admission in a school or college with commitment. 6. Commitment is highly essential to make this life energy to flow into the right and good directions. 7. We feel delighted when we take troubles for the sake of our family members. We never take it as labor or hardship, but we feel it ‘’as our responsibility’’. It is nothing but our commitment to our family. 8. If you extend this same kind of commitment beyond your family limits, to your neighbors also you will get plenty of joy. 9. Like that creativity is also important and it springs up when you are relaxed. Unless you renounce all the work you have done that whole day, you cannot … [Read more...]
Love: The most sacred word in the universe
Our ancestors said long back that this entire universe is filled with Love. This universe is created by love and has been brought up by love. GOD is Love, so there is divinity in love. The pure and selfless love makes man equal to or just like God. There is nothing more powerful than love on this earth, because love is the truth and eternal. Love has got that inherent quality and capacity of providing bliss (eternal joy) to us. It is true that no one can live without love. Hence we should languish for Love and live for Love. People use the word Love for sentimentality. Love is the (magic) wand in the hand of a devotee, with that he can do miracles. Love is the instrument for liberation. Love is the golden way to obtain the grace and holy things from God. Love suppresses non-violence, selfishness, immorality, injustice and unrighteousness. Love that does deceive or disappoint any body is the real love. Now a days, the word love is being used widely and it is losing its real sense. Lovers speak of love routinely which is most of the times is attraction that usually exist between two opposite sexes, (as opposite poles attract each other). Often love is used for lust which is also a temporary phenomenon and there is no holiness in it. Lust is a worldly thing and is often business type. Real love is not an empty expression or vague thing, but it is genuine and purposeful. Love and wisdom are the two sides of a coin. Man must have both. True love never demands monetary benefits or gratitude in return from the other side. The famous quotation is "Love thy neighbors as you love thyself’’. A prayer to God without sincere love is like eye without tears. Compassion is Love in action. So … [Read more...]
18 points for happy family life
The relationship between wife and husband is so strong on one side of the coin and at the same time it is also so weak on the other side of the coin. That is why, sometimes, the misunderstandings differences of opinion that crop up make them to get separated from one another that is leading to divorce. It is not a good affair in any family life. 18 points for happy family life between man and woman: 1. Basically, there is a difference in thinking pattern of both male and female. When a male came to know that a female loves him, then only the male understands the inner feelings present in him. But the female expresses her opinions, when she feels that she is safe and has got the support of others. 2. Male should learn the technique of how to be a good listener. Female wishes that the male should speak nicely and lovely, otherwise she thinks that her partner does not love her heart fully. 3. Generally males do not like other’s suggestion, regarding what they have to do. Females do not like the advice given by others, to change their mentality. 4. Men keep quiet when they face problems where as the women could not keep quiet without talking, in those circumstances. 5. Man requests the help of others, when he needs help. But the female expects that her partner should take the initiative to know her needs beforehand and come forward to help her. 6. It is a big challenge to the husband to support his wife while she is talking. But the wife faces a big challenge to give support to him while he was silent. 7. Men speak only when they want to say anything whereas women speak when they wish to express their opinions. 8. Men wants that women should believe him. But a woman expects that … [Read more...]
How to live happily with hope and courage
Hope is life. Yes, hope is the driving force and it pushes the life forward and makes the life fruitful and worthiness for living. Positive thinking will enhance the life standards and reduces the stress levels. These following 10 points will help you to have a life with full of hope and positive thoughts. 1. Never get despair yourself for every simple defeat and take strong decision to work harder than the previous attempt. 2. Don’t be always in a hurry mood, as hurry makes you worry. Have the patience and wait for some more time looking hopefully for the result. Certainly you will get the good result, as per the hard labor put by you. 3. Never show sympathy upon yourself. Instead you make yourself more capable and dependable. 4. Never allow anxiety to overtake you. Develop this type of thinking as, still what I have to do? 5. People around you, are needn’t be either your supporters or opposites, your thinking must be in that manner. Moreover they are busy in their daily chores, that point you must ever keep in mind ever. 6. It is very difficult to please everyone always. The quotation is like this: ‘’If you want to please all, you please none’’. 7. Never afraid of the changes that may occur in the circumstances where you are working but try adjust to them which gives relief from stress and strain. 8. be of the opinion that you are helping others and not think like that others are utilizing you. 9. Never worry that you are in troubles and there is no way out. But remember the quotation: ‘’Where there is will, there is a way’’. For every problem, there is a solution. 10. You have got your thinking capacity and you need not depend on others for … [Read more...]
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