Sometimes, even educated people behave unnatural way even in trifle matters and become cheap in the eyes of others. So to avoid such embarrassing situations, it is well and good to observe the following 12 points and be dignified. 1. Never read the letters of even your closest relatives, friends, and family members like brothers/sisters. If you read their letters, they will treat as person without manners. 2. Never show interest in others personal matters and don’t read their personal diaries. 3. Never see their SMSs in their cell phones and also their money-purses. 4. Don’t see their albums, unless they request you to see them and also not pass your comments about the album’s nature and external appearance. 5. Switch off the cell phones or keep them in silent, when you are attending the official meetings, cultural programmes and also during dinner times in the presence of guests. 6. Whenever guests come to your home, open the door and invite them politely and walk behind them (not before them) and make them be seated comfortably on the chairs or sofas. 7. Whenever you go to your friend’s house, take with you, sweets, and fruits and for the children biscuits and chocolates, etc. 8. Whenever you have taken help from others, express your gratitude by saying words like, “thanks or please’’, etc. You will get good impression in their opinion about you. Give tips to waiters in hotels or restaurants. 9. During parties or in functions take the food items along with the guests (not alone) and also it is good to serve each other and drink together. It is a good social behavior. 10. While taking coffee, tea … [Read more...]
How to talk to people?
An incident: One person approached the great Greek philosopher, “Socrates’’ and said that he would like to say something against one of his disciples. For that Socrates replied like this: “I don’t know whether you are telling the truth or false and also you are not uttering any good thing about him. You are also saying that moreover this matter is not useful to both of us. So why are you telling me such useless things? And also why should I listen to you?” After listening to it, the person left that place, without speaking further and with a gloomy face. So we must always keep one thing in our minds, i.e.; Speech is a boon given to us by God. God gifted Human race with this amazing power of talking, ultimate communication. Techniques of Public speaking: 1. Never try to speak unnecessarily, otherwise simply it is wasting of our energy (electric power present in our body). 2. Every word that we say should have some meaning and be useful and it should not hurt others. 3. Our word should be reasonable and it must be believed by others. As there is tongue in our mouth, it does not mean that we are free birds speaking for twenty four hours. 4. Our speech should be precise and up to the point only, and not more than that. 5. Our speech should contain – no harsh and sharp words like bullets or arrow-like in nature. 6. Keep yourself away from criticizing others and also passing baseless comments against others. Otherwise they also reply to us in the same way, which gives us trouble and left us without mental peace. 7. Our speech should not make us others getting angry and spoil their moods and does not make the situation worse. 8. Your speech must be kind … [Read more...]
How to enhance communication skills?
In today's competitive environment just educational knowledge is not enough to grow in life. A lot of other factors are also needed to become successful. Among all the factors our personality plays the most important role to achieve the goal of our life. Personality can’t be improved in a day's or week's or month's time; this is a continuous process. To improve your personality first of all you should aware of your strengths and weaknesses. Then focus on your strengths and improve upon your weaknesses. Basically, personality development is the improvement of communication skills, social skill, presentation skill and positive attitude towards life and ethics. Today I’m focusing on communication skill because I think that communication is the most important factor to reflect your personality. How to enhance one's personality? Be Clear On Your Words: Make sure you understand what you want to say before you start. Explain the context of your point so your listener clearly understands why you're talking to them. Use simple words and language to express your point. Do Not Talk Too Fast or Too Slow: Talking too fast shows your nervousness and the result of this people tend to perceive you as unsure of yourself. Therefore, you need to be slow and steady, while expressing your thoughts to someone. However, being too slow is also not good. Rather, develop a moderate speed for your speech. You can develop this habit by practicing at home. You should read newspapers and check your speed. Also try talking to yourself in front of mirror. Stays Positive: Phrase your ideas and suggestions in a positive, rather than critical way. Be confident. Don't assume that what you have to say … [Read more...]
Essential Public Speaking Skills
Public speaking is the process of speaking to a group of people in a structured, deliberate manner intended to inform, influence, or entertain the listeners. Public speaking within a group of people is a difficult activity. Because listeners have better access to information since the internet became common place, audiences expect more content from speakers today. If you would rather spend your time preparing your content than reading a book on public speaking, this is an article especially for you. Starting Your Speech: In modern world, Speech tends to be much less formal than they were twenty years ago. Most audience these days prefers a relatively informal approach. However, there is a certain structure to the opening of a Speech that you should observe. • Get people's attention and build rapport• Welcome them• Introduce yourself• State the purpose of your Speech• State how you want to deal with questions Make Friends from the Audience: When you stand up in front of that audience, you’re going to be really nervous. Poor speakers pay little or no attention to their audience as people. Big mistake!! If you can see your audience as a group of individuals, you’ll be much more likely to connect with those individuals. Start looking around your audience. Pick out ‘friends’ all round the room. If you see an ‘impress me’ person and get discouraged, switch your view back to one of your ‘friend’. Once you are aware that there are people in your audience who want you to succeed, you’ll be much more likely to succeed. Voice Modulation: Microphones, if used effectively will be a great tool for Voice Modulation. Very few of us use them … [Read more...]
Communication skills: Why should you learn?
Communications skills are the most essential assets for anyone to achieve success in today’s competitive world. Companies are giving more importance to soft skills during job interviews. You can never enhance your personality in the society/team without communication skills. Soft skills are essential to have a great career or to get success in interviews. Never treat soft skills as an academic requirement but as a ingredient of your personality. A great intelligent person without communication skills can achieve nothing in personal/work life. The various types of soft skills are: 1. Interpersonal skills. 2. Team working skills. 3. Creative thinking. 4. Decision making skills. 5. Problem solving skills. 6. Memory and reasoning techniques. To day most of the parents encourage their children to study well so that they can get a “ good job” ad earn handsome salaries. No doubt it is a good thing on the part of the parents. But what about other options (skills)? Recently, an expert said in an interview that “It may be true that it is those students who secure more than 65% marks in their academic qualifications get the jobs in reputed companies and it is also a fact that it is those who secure between 50 %to 60% marks have started these companies”. So, to build and lead a successful team, you can successfully able to communicate with your team member. You can never become a leader without these soft skills. All great leaders in the history like Abraham Lincoln are also a wonderful communicators. Just see how Obama trounced favourite Hillary Clinton by using his great communication skills. For example, well- known personalities like Bill Gates … [Read more...]
Tips to improve public relations
Man is a social animal and he can’t live alone in the society, hence he should observe some norms while dealing with his neighbors and/or at the working place. Good public relationships improve your life and enhance life productivity. Maintaining good relations is an important part of personality development. 16 tips to improve public relations: 1. Never exhibit dominating mentality and egoism is hindrance to our progress in our career. 2. Never utter anything irresponsibly and always keep in mind the consequences after uttering any wrong word. 3. In any affair or quarrel, have patience and tactics in dealing with that situation. 4. Don’t be under the impression that whatever you say is correct or whatever you do is perfect. You can never win through arguments. Arguments only ruin crucial relationships. 5. Eschew the narrow mindedness and always be broad minded. Always be open to criticism and new ideas. 6. First of all, verify the facts in whatever you listen, (remember there may be certain lies), before passing any adverse comments against anyone. 7. Never encourage rumors, as they spread like wild fire, causing irreversible damage to the prestige of others in the society. Rumors travel faster than the truth. 8. Abhor the greediness, but develop the noble quality of charity. 9. Don’t believe everything that comes to your ear, from other and outward sources. Just listen to that and apply your own intelligence and judgment. 10. Never try to see everything (especially small) in magnified lenses. Try to see through the eyes of others. 11. Don’t be stubborn but have some flexibility while dealing with settlements with others. 12. Smile before … [Read more...]
Art of public speaking: 8 things to avoid
When stage fright is the catalyst, most of the people choose flight. It plays a major part in one’s personality development process. Stage fear is a normal and to a degree desirable response, but it must be constructively controlled. 8 techniques to avoid to become a great speaker: 1. Preparation: Research the subject, organize the speech and then rehearse it with a tape recorder or with a friend. The more familiar with the situation, the less fear of it is. 2. To avoid confusion: Choose or modify the topic carefully, if necessary. Because, all is well that ends well. 3. Move about to avoid tension: By stepping away from the podium occasionally, walking among the audience or gesturing in a way that adds meaning to your words. (Otherwise tension produces more adrenaline, which wastes physical energy). 4. Use visual aids: Which helps you in minimizing your speech? Pictures impress listeners much, rather than words. One visual aid is equal to one thousand words. 5. Look your best: The speaker’s appearance should add to the impact of the message (rather than distract from it). 6. Dress maintenance: Wear your favorite suit, the one that makes you feel, as if you conquer the world. Certainly, dress and its color influence your thinking and behavior in any meeting or function. 7. Allow for spontaneity: Speak from a familiar outline, which allows the freedom to concentrate on the message. Speak conversationally and monitor the audience’s responses. Inter action with the audience helps the speaker to know the attitude and knowledge of the audience on the subject. 8. Speak often: Experience shows that the more we do something, the more comfortable and competent we become. Volunteer to … [Read more...]
Beware of tongue and talking
The most trouble maker in the human body is the ‘’Tongue”. It is well said that ‘’ Tongue has no bones but it brakes the bones”. That is why the nature (GOD), has kept it in a closed chamber (the Mouth), that is almost in a cave. Hence don’t bring it out of the mouth, often. The golden word is- “Speech is silver and silence is golden”. Men usually commit four deeds through speech: 1. Harsh talking 2. Telling lies 3. Talking badly about others (spreading rumors) 4. Useless talking. 1. Harsh talking: It brings troubles and tensions. It makes the friends to become our enemies. Nobody likes to talk to a harsh natured person and if at all necessary, they complete the conversation with a few words sentences, because afraid of him. Speaking harshly is compared to the body with a sharp arrow. Remedy: Speak politely and lightly. 2. Telling Lies: It is well said as:’’ Better to die than to lie’’. This golden word holds good for all times. ‘’Truth is God’’- Mahatma Gandhi, Father of the Indian nation used to say, and he lived for the truth, throughout his life. Another golden word, in Sanskrit language is: ’’Satyameva Jayate’’ (meaning is-Truth always triumphs). Never tell lies, as nobody likes a person with lesser values. 3. Talking badly about others: Spreading rumors is highly dangerous. Sometimes the rumor may bring danger to the life of the other person, even though he is quite innocent. They create misunderstanding between wife and husband. Rumor spreads more speedily than truth, like wild fire. 4. Useless talking: It is like a disease. No one is benefited by unnecessary talking. Moreover it gives headache to … [Read more...]
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