We don't function well when we worry. Worry hinders our work and spoils our health. Being a habitual worrier, I decided to solve my problem and found for myself; three ways in which I can make my tensions disappear just by steering my thoughts in a particular direction. Consider the following examples: A cell of my body dies, another is born - does it make any difference to me? I will not even be aware of this death or for that matter, the birth. In my lifespan, a second, a minute hardly matters; these are insignificant in the context of my lifetime. Similarly, compare one's self to the universe. A person is not significant enough to constitute even a speck of this universe, so huge are its dimensions. Even if I was no more the next minute, it will go on just the same. Where is all this discussion heading? What has all this got to do with worry? -When you are worried about your job, some work place problem, a family quarrel, obstinate kids, the thoughts like the above will help you put these issues in perspective. You will realise that events like these are not of prime importance. They are trivial, a very tiny part of your life. Happy occasions and worries, victories and defeats keep occurring in everybody's life. They are just one of the thousands of things which have already happened or will happen in the future and should be treated as such. - When the worm called 'worry' starts eating into you, make some time to ponder over whether the worrisome incident will continue to bother you tomorrow, whether it would make a difference to your life a year from now. Why, ten years hence you may have forgotten this incident and if you do remember you may be having a good laugh over it. I surely have no idea … [Read more...]
12 manners to get respect from others
Sometimes, even educated people behave unnatural way even in trifle matters and become cheap in the eyes of others. So to avoid such embarrassing situations, it is well and good to observe the following 12 points and be dignified. 1. Never read the letters of even your closest relatives, friends, and family members like brothers/sisters. If you read their letters, they will treat as person without manners. 2. Never show interest in others personal matters and don’t read their personal diaries. 3. Never see their SMSs in their cell phones and also their money-purses. 4. Don’t see their albums, unless they request you to see them and also not pass your comments about the album’s nature and external appearance. 5. Switch off the cell phones or keep them in silent, when you are attending the official meetings, cultural programmes and also during dinner times in the presence of guests. 6. Whenever guests come to your home, open the door and invite them politely and walk behind them (not before them) and make them be seated comfortably on the chairs or sofas. 7. Whenever you go to your friend’s house, take with you, sweets, and fruits and for the children biscuits and chocolates, etc. 8. Whenever you have taken help from others, express your gratitude by saying words like, “thanks or please’’, etc. You will get good impression in their opinion about you. Give tips to waiters in hotels or restaurants. 9. During parties or in functions take the food items along with the guests (not alone) and also it is good to serve each other and drink together. It is a good social behavior. 10. While taking coffee, tea … [Read more...]
Art of living- Acts of kindness
Art of Living guru Sri Sri Ravi Shankar on acts of kindness: Abiding in the self, you become the Valentine for the whole world. Spirit is the valentine of the matter and vice verse. They are made for each other. If you do not respect the spirit, then nature is not pleased and vice versa. You are the Christmas tree: A Christmas tree bears the gifts and the lights not for itself. Similarly all the gifts you are carrying in your life are for others. When you showed kindness towards others, your true nature comes into play. Have you ever done acts of kindness, without expecting anything out of it, and then it is considered as a worthy act and loved by all. Our services should not be mechanical and they should be natural spontaneous. For example, If a girl helps an old woman to cross the road, the gratitude in the eyes of that old home is enough for that girl to being joy in her. No other special reward is essential and also we cannot measure that little charity with money. This sort of kind heartedness brings changes in the hearts of many people. When you do random acts of kindness, you become in touch with your true nature. God likes very much this sort of kind hearted persons. … [Read more...]
Causes of Fear – How to overcome it?
The following 4 things are common for all living beings: 1. Food: for living and survival. 2. Sleep: to recoup the bodily energy (as sleep provides rest to the body). 3. Sex: It is a biological need and it serves many purposes, like: -calm up the exiting sensory organs, -Removes the feeling of loneliness, -Helps to control the blood pressure, -Brings pleasure to the mind and body, etc. 4. Fear: What for? The above four things are even though present in all creatures, man’s response and worrying about them is to some extent is more. But, after fulfilling the three acts, they will not give trouble to you. But in case of fear, the situation is different and it is always accompanying us. So let us discuss about it and clear the doubts. Even infants (children below I year of age) suddenly wake up from the sleep and show feelings of disturbance and excitement. That means, since our birth, the fear giving some sort of discomfort to us, with or without any cause. The usual causes for the fear-complex are: -Getting diseases by indulging in irregular food habits and other immoral activities. -The rich are always spending the days in sleepless-nights, as how to save their huge amounts of money, either from thieves or harmful known persons. -The people with name and fame in the society may think that one day their name may be tarnished, unless they behave carefully. -Rulers afraid of their enemies. -Beautiful women and handsome men worry of their old age. -The good and the noble people afraid of bad and rowdy elements. -Every living being worry about the inevitable death-feeling. But is there any … [Read more...]
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